SOS Village

 

With so many marriages (and divorces) being cross-Atantic, this web page provides US support links.

Many thanks to the Naked Divorce Coach Adele Theron for sharing many of these valuable resources with us, and the excellent information and resources available on Christina McGhee's Divorce and Children website:

 

Helping your kids cope with divorce:

http://www.divorceandchildren.com/

 

http://kidshealth.org/

http://www.childdevelopmentinfo.com/

http://www.divorceinfo.com/

http://step-parenting.com/

http://www.dealwithdivorce.com/

http://singleparents.about.com/

http://www.stepfamily.org/

http://effects-of-divorce-on-children.com/

http://divorceonchildren.com/

http://www.childrencope.org/

http://divorceadviceforchildren.com/

 

Parenting resources:

Hostile Aggressive Parenting.com - Hostile Aggressive Parenting is encountered in most high conflict child-custody disputes and is often used as a tool to align the child with one parent during litigation. This site strives to educate the public about this growing problem in hopes of getting help to those who need it.

Parent Alienation Awareness Organization - An organization dedicated to educating the general public, the schools, police, counselors, religious leaders, and more, about the growing problems of Parent Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting. This organization has been actively involved in raising awareness through campaigning for the national and international recognition of Parent Alienation Awareness Day on April 25th.


National Father’s Resource Center - This offers information to fathers which supports shared parenting and the active involvement of both parents in a child’s life.

Our Family Wizard.com – is an interactive and secure means for separated or divorced parents to communicate and share information between households. By using this site families can eliminate the stress of verbal communication. The website also provides a way for family members to retrieve important information or access a schedule from any location. www.ourfamilywizard.com

How to Divorce as Friends.com - Bill Ferguson guides you through healing your hurt, resolving personal issues and ending conflict with your ex spouse. Bill also empowers people to change their attitudes and in doing so, change their lives.

http://www.presentparenttraining.com

http://www.familytlc.net

http://www.parentmap.com/

http://www.parenthood.com/

 

 

Managing finances:

http://www.mint.com/

http://www.smartmoney.com/

http://www.mypennysense.com/

http://www.bestfinancetips.org/

http://www.moneymanagement.org/

 

Personal & professional development:

http://www.workshifting.com/

http://www.workingmother.com

http://www.modernworkforce.com/

http://www.landmarkeducation.com

 

GENERAL, LEGAL & other useful stuff: 

Mediate.com – offers information to professionals and parents on the process of mediation. To find a mediator in your area click on the following link http://www.mediate.com/mediator/search.cfm

 

 

 

• Discover the benefits of collaborative solutions for marriage dissolution, child custody and co-parenting issues, division of assets, and more.
• Learn how Collaborative Divorce/Collaborative Practice offers guidance, information, and respectful problem solving.
• Understand how to better manage the effects of divorce on your children.
• Locate collaborative legal, financial, and emotional support resources for family and civil disputes.
• Website: http://www.collaborativepractice.com/

Divorce Magazine.com – an informative online magazine which provides area specific resources.

Divorce-online.com - Provides lots of articles and information on a wide range of topics related to divorce. Also supplies a professional reference index by area.

Collaborative Law Institute of Texas is an organization comprised of independent, unaffiliated family law practitioners who are dedicated to resolving divorce and family law disputes, without bloodshed.

Colorado Divorce Mediation - Award-winning information by Colorado attorney-mediators on this child-friendlier and increasingly popular and positive alternative to adversarial divorce: family mediation. Especially recommended are the web-exclusive child custody parenting plans of Dr. Joan Kelly, with illustrative graphics. Even if you live outside Colorado, this site has lots of useful divorce and mediation information.

Legal Services NYC For more than 45 years, our staff of talented attorneys, paralegals, social workers and clerical workers have helped low-income New Yorkers navigate the civil legal system.  http://www.legalservicesnyc.org/

 

 

One of the most important goals of The Legal Aid Society is to make clients, prospective clients, and their families and friends aware of our services and how to access them. http://www.legal-aid.org/en/ineedhelp/ineedhelp.aspx

The attorneys in our Matrimonial & Family Law Unit make a difference for low income families experiencing difficult times.  http://www.nylag.org/law.htm

Sanctuary for Families is...

...the leading nonprofit agency in New York State dedicated exclusively to serving domestic violence victims, sex trafficking victims, and their children.  http://www.sanctuaryforfamilies.org/

Fact sheets about your legal rights  http://www.lawhelp.org/

 

Resources DIY divorce

www.irs.gov IRS offers free information about all the tax issues related to divorce

 

www.ncsconline.org free general information about state divorce laws, along with local court rules and forms

AJS http://www.ajs.org/prose/pro_resources.asp

The Jail House Lawyers http://www.angelfire.com/az/sthurston/research.html

First Wives World http://www.firstwivesworld.com/resources/resource-articles/pro-se-divorce-papers-rules-and-relationships

 

Downloadable advice pack from the Citizen's Advice Bureau:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1 in 4 women in Surrey has experienced abuse from known partner since the age of 18.

1 in 8 women are suffering right now!

1 in 6 men have been affected.

 

Are you being hurt by someone close to you?  Do you know someone who is being hurt by someone close to them?

What is Domestic Abuse?

 

Domestic Abuse is any frm of physical, emotional, psychological or sexual abuse withi the context of a close relationship, usually between two partners or ex-artners.

 

Domestic Abuse may happen i any close relationship no matter what age gender, sexuality, or physical ability, aross all social casses, ad ethnic or racial backgrounds.

Abuse can involve:

 

Physical Abuse:

Hitting, slapping, punching, kicking and bruising

 

Sxual Abuse:

 

Rape and forced participation in sexual acts

 

Eotional Abuse:

Ridicule, constant critisism, threats ad manipulation.

 

Psychological Abuse:

Isolation, sleep deprivation, intimidation and threatneing or controlling behaviur.

 

Are you experiencing Domestic Abuse?

 

Sometimes poepl in abusive relationhsip feel that wht they experience is not serious enugh to be called abuse.

 

people in abusive relationships often becoe isolated from friends and family.  It can feel as if you are the only one experiencing this .

 

May peeople feel that the abuse they are experinecin is their fault

 

You may feel that you would ot be understood or believed if you told family, friends or even professionals.

 

Suffering abuse can seriously affect your health, your confidence and belief in yourself.

 

Pleease remember you are not alone

Fore example, the South West Surrey Outreach Team can offer supoort and adice to women, men and children withi the commnity, whether they have left or are still living in an abusive relationshi.

 

WThey ca offer you support over the telephone or at an agreed eeting place where it is safe to do so

 

They can offer advice with housing issues

 

They also offer advocacy work to support you when attending court herings or solicitors appointments.

 

They can find yo emergency accommodation if needed.

 

They can just sit and listen to you if you just need to talk.

 

For further help and information please call their helpline number:  01483 577 392

 

This number is manned Monday to Friday 9am to 3pm.  If we are busy please leave a message and we will call you back.

 

Please remember in an emergency to call 999.

 

Other helpful numbers to call:

 

South West Surrey Domestic Abuse Outreach - call us in confidence: 01483 577392

Surrey Women's Aid (25hr helpline) 01483 776822

Samaritans 08457 909090

Refuge 24 hour helpline  0808 2000 247

Childline  0800 1111

 

Here are some statistics taken from the book ‘Living With The Dominator - A Book About The Freedom Programme’.  Pat Craven, 2008

1.       In Britain 112 women a year are killed by a male partner or former partner.  (Home Office 2007)
2.       In Britain 22 men a year are killed by a female partner or former partner.  (Home Office 2007)
3.       In Britain a woman is killed by a violent partner every 3 days.  (London Home Office 2007)
4.       The Russian Government estimates that 14000 women were killed by their partners or relatives in 1999. (Amnesty 2007)
5.       Women are 3 times more likely to be injured when pregnant.  (Refuge 2007)
6.       At least 750,000 children a year witness domestic violence.  Nearly three quarters of children live in households where domestic violence occurs.  (Department of Health 2003)
7.       1 in 5 young men and 1 in 10 young women think that abuse or violence is acceptable.  (Zero Tolerance Charitable Trust 1998)
8.       It is estimated that 1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence at sometime in their life.  (Home Office 2007)
9.       Every minute in the UK the police receive a call from the public for assistance to deal with domestic violence.  This leads to the police receiving an estimated 1,300 calls each day or over 570,000 per year.  (Professor Stanko E, The Day To Count: A Snapshot of The Impact Of Domestic Violence in the UK.  Criminal Justice 1:2, 2000)
10.   1 in 20 women in England and Wales has been the victim of rape.  Only 1 in 5 attacks is reported to the police.  ‘Current partners’ were responsible for 45% of rapes reported to the British Crime Survey.  ‘Strangers’ were only responsible for 8% of rapes.  (Amnesty International 2007)
11.   A Woman is assaulted an average of 35 times before she seeks help.  (Amnesty UK 2006)
12.   More women are killed or injured when leaving the relationship.  (Lee S ‘Marital Rape and Marital Murder’  in Hamer, J et al.  Home Truths About Domestic Violence.  Feminist Influences on Policy and Practice: A Reader.  London: Routledge, 2000)
13.   There are 275 refuges for women in England.  (Women’s Aid 2004)
14.   In the UK a woman is assaulted in the home every 6 seconds.  (Professor Stanko, as above)

 

 

Many people going through separation feel confused about what help they need from friends and family, whilst others find it hard to ask for help.

 

Click here to use the Eurodebt simple debt calculator and find out where you are financially:

 

 

 

Divorce and separation can be a hard thing to do. Especially if you were not the one to initiate it. I have had my fair share of break ups and been through a painful divorce and know how challenging these times can be. You feel that there is no way out and somehow you wish that things could be different.

Listen to our two part ad for SOS at Holiday Inn Guildford for 22 September 2011......

 

DIY divorce - or Litigant in Person (LIP) is becoming increasingly common.

 

 

 

As anyone who has ever been divorced doubtless knows, the divorce process can leave both parties heavily in debt.

Dads House offers free cooking classes for single dads and their kids, making cooking fun and tasty.

 

 

My own children have been through the break up of myself and their dad, so I asked them to contribute to this section. 

 

 

 

 

 

CHILD MAINTENANCE OPTIONS

http://www.cmoptions.org/

What are your options?